Thursday, February 7, 2019

A Lovely Inconsequence

Did you know that the phrase "a lovely inconsequence" was penned for Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy?  Historian and public intellectual Arthur Schlesinger, Jr. was having dinner one evening with John and Jackie Kennedy.  Asked later to describe his beautiful hostess, he noted that there was a studied elan about her like a "veil of lovely inconsequence".  It has often been said that real bien de sa peau elicits a slight feeling of carelessness about a creature.  Those who have it make their beauty or chicness look as though it were almost an afterthought.  This is very different from being deshabille, which means to add a little tart-ness to a woman's look.  Examples that come to mind are a smudge of lipstick as if one has just been kissed, hair that looks like one recently arose from bed, or maybe a slightly tight skirt.  Jackie Kennedy was never this but she did make her style appear effortless - almost carefree - as when a pretty woman faces the mirror one last time before stepping out and then suddenly tosses a wispy scarf around her neck that was hanging on a doorknob nearby.  But in reality, the "inconsequence" is actually a part of the plan.  And when it's gently applied, it's quite lovely...

I have received word from Google that they are no longer going to manage blog comments.  I could not make heads or tails of their email but my guru-daughter is trying to decipher it all for me.  We are not sure if you will no longer be able to comment at all or if something easier will replace it.  Commenting with Google has always been challenging anyway. 

When I began this blog, it was to practice different writing styles and present first-person narratives as well as editorials on topics I love and hopefully make parallels to paid writing to build an audience.  I could link my paid work on the blog but the "voice" of my articles is not really "mine" anymore and not always at a grade level that I would prefer to represent me.  That's just the way the freelance world is now.  Some of my posts have turned into articles which make editors happy.  But they tell me that the blog no longer represents the work I do for them.  Their suggestions are to either stop blogging altogether or upgrade the blog to build a brand, let third parties manage it, and link all my work in one place. The goal then is to become more marketable and gain more exposure.  

I've always been a writer.  From my first published piece at age 9, to the marketing material I've written and sold, to random freelancing and then to this blog.  I know I must write and always will.  Just not sure where I will write in the future.  Maybe I'm behind the times but I never wanted a space to write that would charge money or have those dreaded "clickable" phrases and ads.  I always just wanted a clean space to emote from and hopefully emote to kindred spirits who would find their own selves in between my words.  

But so many of my favorite blogs have upgraded and blogging itself is on a downturn.  Some bloggers are producing magazines to be read online for a cost.  I guess I'm old fashioned at heart.  And I find it difficult to read magazines online - I like to hold them in my hands.

So, if my blog began as just an inconsequence of my personal writing plans, it has turned out to be something far more important to me.  I will always have a need to express myself whether it's through a book, an article, a blog or even a private diary.  I'm just not quite sure yet what lovely turn my writing may take in the future...

If you find you cannot comment, you may always email me at  For now.


  1. I don't understand the Google email but will wait and see for myself. I do hope that the things you've covered here do not stop you from blogging. I loved reading the bits about Jackie. Last Saturday was 1/2 price day at Goodwill, never go that day as it was madness, but I found 3 Kennedy books, What Would Jackie Do, Bradlee's Conversations with Kennedy, and Johnny, We Hardly Knew Ye. I can never resist a book about them.

  2. I enjoy your blog very much! I hope you will continue it. Your insights and musings speak to me on a visceral level. Please don't stop.

  3. I've enjoyed your blog for years. It's been a calm respite from a crazy world, touching my heart and reminding me of times past, sometimes childhood and teen years, sometimes young adult years or early motherhood, always warming my heart. I hope to be able to continue reading your evocative words for more years to come. Thank you!

  4. Agree with the other comments...always enjoy your blog and your take on the world and things remembered. Thank you - I hope you continue to share your views !

  5. Your blog is a breath of fresh air. It is the only one I read. Your thoughts and writing resonates with me- hope you continue

  6. Please don't stop! You bring a bit of class and elegance to the blogging world.

  7. Dear Donna,
    I sincerely hope that you will continue to blog, as I think of you as a pen pal, one who lives far away in a lost land of elegance and femininity.
    I too prefer the old fashion book or magazine in my hands, of writing letters with paper and ink, of sealing that envelope with sealing wax, and awaiting a reply in the mail box.
    In today's technical world, the old fashioned seems very cathartic for what ails me....yes I love your blog, and it is always the first one I read when you write....thank-you dear friend for being there with your lovely words.

  8. I love to come here! Thank you for continuing to be an independent voice. Yes, time is precious and there seems to be less and less of it... smiles and memories are precious, too. As is your blog.

  9. All I can say is, you'll find a way, I know you will. Your writing will continue and your voice will be heard. You could just build a tiny website through Host Gator and get a tech-savvy kid to help maintain it. But, maybe just print off the old archived articles and start fresh. You've been itching to do that, Donna, and here's your kick in the pants from the mysterious forces behind the web! I say, go for it. If you build it, we will come! XO Karen